I've been married for 12 years with one child.
Several days ago my parents went to our house with some relatives just to visit their eldest son. During the conversation my dad asked me and my wife of raising another child since according to him my son is lonely (i don't think he is). This was seconded by my mom and relatives. I told them to drop the topic since we've already decided to raise one child. Not convinced they wanted to know the reason and so i did.
1. We got married because we want to share the rest of our lives together (during that time having children was out of the equation)
2. We both share the same view that in a family the relationship of the parents is the cake and the children is JUST the icing on the cake.
3. Having several children is not a guarantee of a happy family. If the relationship of the parents is full of love and respect and they have no problems (major) then the family is happy.
4. Our country is already populated.
5. If you raise more than one child, parents have to work harder to support the financial, emotional, mental, physical needs of the children - meaning lesser time with your children.
6. I dont believe in spending "15 min quality time" with your kids. They need lots of quality time ...
7. Having more than one child is so stressful, so why should i do it.
I told them i still have a lot of reasons but i dont want to spoil their afternoon :-)
If you're reading this and you want to know the other reasons am sure glad to share it with you ...
Got to go ... my son is waiting for me ...
Friday, October 19, 2007
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I didn't have any kids yet but planning to have 2 or at the most 3 :). We were a tiny family, my dad is the only son and he only has 2 kids. I don't have uncle's or aunt's but its only a single word 'uncle and aunt'.
That's why m aiming for a more than one, my dad would always tell us how he wished he has a bro or a sis. His growing up wasn't sad but he missed someone to play with, kana bang murag naay kulang..according to him. And he is right, how I wish there are more members in our family..but he can't afford though that's why he and mom both stick to 2 kids.
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